Confidence is perceiving failure as feedback and learning from your mistakes along the path of life.
Learn why you should look forward to it and how it can help you ultimately get where you want to go.
Have you ever hear d the quote, “There is no such thing as failure.”
When you read the quote above, what’s your reaction?
Do you think it’s untrue? Silly glass-half-empty stuff?
What if I told you that only you have the power to decide whether or not something is real, a “failure?”
Some highly successful people believe the very word “failure” has no place in our vocabulary.
Let’s talk about why.
As a child, you probably played that game “opposite day.”
You’d play practical jokes on your family and friends and release some passive aggression in the process of claiming “opposite day.”
It was great—you could call the cutest girl in the class “ugly” and then take it all back by merely exclaiming “opposite day!”
But, the result is the same; you still would have acknowledged her cuteness.
Well, let’s play the game.
What if today, failure means success?
How can you acknowledge your success, even as you utter the word “failure”? Well, you can point out:
a. Everything that was learned in getting to where you are now can not be that bad and goes to the scrap box.
b. that simply recognizing everything had not gone according to plan or achieved the desired outcome is in itself a positive outcome.
c. that the specific path you took this go-round was not the right one, so it has successfully been eliminated and will not be repeated.
d. that you’ll know to do things differently in the future.
e. that the experience has enabled you to grow in some way.
“Failure” is feedback.
“Failure” can be a great way to get us to pause in the middle of our process and get some critical information to indicate that we may need to change direction, try something new, continue
our learning, or shift our focus.
Imagine what would happen if we did not get that feedback and continued endlessly along the wrong path, toward the wrong goal, or without ever learning a new approach?
The thought is pretty scary.
Failure, then, can be seen as positive feedback information that gets us back on the right track.
Without it, we would indeed be lost, and the key is to identify it quickly, change direction, try something new, or shift our focus.
Here are some tips that can help:
Always have a clear idea of where you want to go and continue to re-evaluate it as you move forward.
Identify specific milestones or markers along the way to let you know you’re on the right track and celebrate each small and big success.
If something does not appear to be working, or working fast enough, don’t hesitate to try something new and keep modifying until you get your outcome.
Continually learn from others with whom you work, seek out experts, find others who may have traveled down a similar road before you.
When in doubt, quickly remember the following.
“You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call “failure” is not the falling down, but the staying down.”
If you are not making any mistakes, you’re not doing anything with your life.
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To your success
Your Coach Lionel Sanabria