How Does One Become Genuinely Happy

First, genuine happiness comes from within, not from the outside.

"Happines from within"

Life isn’t always the sweetest candy we all want to have. Sometimes, when I feel like the world is just too heavy,

I look around and find people who continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives.

Then thoughts come popping into my mind like bubbles from nowhere – “How did their life become so adorably sweet? How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy, stressful life?”

Then I pause and observed for a while. I figured out that maybe, they start to work in a place called ‘self.’

So, how does one become genuinely happy?

Step 1 is to love you.

One of my professors once said that “loving means accepting.” To love one means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lay a great ounce of courage to discover ways to improve your repertoire to recover from your mistakes.

Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have – honestly, you know the answer to the question “how to be genuinely happy.”

When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that remote start will eventually lead to something else. But if you keep questioning life, it has never done you any good; you will never be able to find genuine happiness.

Life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, winning and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure in a person’s life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.

How to be genuinely happy despite all these? I tell you every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams, and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that.

Imagine life as a giant scoreboard like those which are used in sports stadiums. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points.

Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself, “Whew? I got the point today. I’m glad I gave it a shot.” instead of looking at it all blank and murmur “Geez, I didn’t even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won!” and then walk away.

Genuine happiness isn’t about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th-month pay, or beating the sales quota.

Sometimes, the most sought-after prizes in life don’t always go to the fastest, the strongest, and the bravest, or not even the best. So, how do you become genuinely happy?

Everyone has his definition of happiness.’ Happiness for a writer may mean launching as many bestselling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money.

Happiness for a businessman may mean success. So, now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. You don’t have to have the best things in this world. It’s about doing and making the best out of every single thing.

When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling yourself, “Oh, I’ll do better next time,” you carry with you a flame of strong willpower to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire.

You possess a willingness to stand up again and try – that will make you a genuinely happy person.

When you learn to accept yourself and your faults, you pass step 1 in the project, “how to become genuinely happy.” For as long as you know how to accept others, it will also take you. For as long as you love and learn how to love, you will receive love ten folds back.

Again, throw me that same question “how to become genuinely happy?” I’ll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted- “Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life’s aches and pain. But most of us don’t know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self because then you don’t just become happy, you become free.”

I wish you all the very best life has to offer.

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To your success

Your Coach Lionel Sanabria

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