How many times have you started an endeavor, a new way of thinking, or tried something new, and then a setback occurs, and you go back to the way you were?
Don’t worry; you are not the only one!
There are two ways of facing difficulties.
You either change or alter the difficulty, or you can transform yourself to deal with it, so you do have a choice.
Deal with difficulties correctly, and it will enhance your confidence, deal with them incorrectly, and they can do some severe damage to your worth.
When you face any setback, you can turn around your ability to deal with it into a position of strength by asking yourself positively, empowering questions.
There is an unwritten rule that says:
Ask your mind a stupid question, and you will get a silly answer!
So, if after setback you ask yourself something like
“Why does this always happen to me? I never have any luck?”
Your mind will probably come out with:
“Because you are useless and good things do not happen to you!”
Instead, if you ask yourself a positive empowering question like:
“What did I learn from this setback for next time?”
Here are some rules and things to think about when setbacks do occur:
•Acknowledge that it has happened. Don’t hide from it. These things happen. So what?
•What positive empowering questions can you ask yourself?
•What is good about this situation?
•How can I make the most of this situation?
•What can I learn from it?
•What are the facts about this problem?
•How can we make it a successful outcome?
•Acknowledge that setbacks occur to everyone and you are not being singled out.
•view them as a challenge to overcome rather than an issue or problem
•Think about the negative dis-empowering thoughts that you think of regularly after a setback.
•What new empowering questions could you ask yourself to give some better answers!
Write these down now and make them a habit; it will change your perspective about any situation.
Today, remember that life is about growth; it comes with a full bag of obstacles and challenges, so get used to it. If you ever thought that life was easy, well, my dear friend, it is time to take the red pill and wake up.
Only you can determine what success is, the same as your reality; it is all in your mind to your success.
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To your success
Your Coach Lionel Sanabria