You can be more successful in life only if you take action.
In this article, you will find a quick method to help you get things done and to make your life clutter-free, and take control of your life.
Once your life is cleared of all the clutter, it becomes easier to control.
The more the control, the more motivated you feel.
De-clutter your life and improve your motivation!
Many people carry around with them a lot of excess ‘luggage’ or ‘clutter.’
The emotional tensions and regrets make a significant part of this clutter. The ‘if only’s and ‘why this happened along with ‘could have’s could be aplenty.
Do away with this excess baggage!
Consider this incident in John and Jane’s life.
John and Jane were life partners. One day, they had a row over something, and they stopped speaking to each other. Not only that, they started living separately. Within a month, both missed the companionship of the other and regretted the break-up. However, both waited for the other to make the first move to start over again. It never happened. They drifted apart, but the feeling of regret stayed with them. Each confessed to mutual friends that it had affected their lives.
What was the purpose? Either you make a move to do something about the incomplete situations you face in life or find closure. Nursing and feeding your regrets and making a mental list should have got you down and down.
You ought to struggle free, but you don’t.
Now, take a good look at yourself.
Are you like this?
Do you have a mental list of ‘if only’s and ‘should have’s cropping up now and then?
Be honest with yourself. Because if you are like this, your confidence and motivation have probably been suffering.
The approach to taking control of your life
So now, what do you have to do?
Get rid of this useless burden, that’s what!
Begin with answering a series of questions and completing the following exercise:
We will do ‘complete’ specific tasks, draw a line under them and move on. This is also known as ‘psychological completion’ or merely ‘completion.’
So coming up next is a series of questions that you could take to answering in one sitting or over a couple of hours or days. You can make the process formal by jotting down the answers rather than making a mental note of them.
Go ahead. Watch your confidence and motivation soar!
1. Putting up with
List ten things that you are putting up with at home.
List ten things that you are putting up with at work.
List ten things that you are putting up within any other area of your life.
Create an action plan to weed out/ communicate these things that you have been putting up with
2. Unfinished matters
List out all the things in your life that you feel are unresolved/unfinished
Create an action plan meant to reduce this number. Do you need to clear the air with anyone? If so, do it! Life is too short!
Is there someone you are supposed to call or keep in touch with but failed to find the time? If yes, do it. Call them or send an email to them right away!
Let go of as many ‘could, would, shoulds, maybes, and oughts’ from your life as you can.
3. Your standards
Write down the standards that you have always told yourself to try matching. Now let go of them and create a new list. These should be the standards that you are going to have in your life from this day onwards.
List out the names of 5 people you admire the most and identify their qualities, behavior, and way of life. What standards do they have? What are the means that you could set for yourself to be more like them?
Remember, the standards set by others for themselves will be different from yours. Think of any five friends or colleagues. What criteria have they set for themselves? How are they different from yours?
Did you know that you had such a long list silently and without your being aware of it eating away your inner strengths?
How difficult would it be to move forward when you had such so many thoughts holding you back?
These exercises will help you focus on the here, the now, and the future of your life.
Now there is a lot for you to do, isn’t it! No time to lose if you are serious; now is an excellent time to start!
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To your success
Coach Lionel Sanabria